Me, Myself & I

If you haven’t heard of the book Love, InshAllah – The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim women then you are sleeping under a rock! I am delighted to be joining their blog as a monthly columnist. Check out my column “Single in the City” and my first post “Me, Myself & I”.

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Editor’s note: Writer Ihssan Tahir is coming on board as a LoveinshAllah.com monthly columnist! Look for her column, “Single in the City,” the last Wednesday of the month.


I’ve learned many things since my divorce. It has been a time of self-reflection and discovery. I am a firm believer that there is a lesson to be learned in all situations; this includes the good and bad.

The most profound – and difficult – thing I’ve learned is to be alone.

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6 thoughts on “Me, Myself & I

  1. Hodan Hassan says:

    Thank you so much for sharing something intimate about you. Coming from the perspective of someone who has tried marriage, I agree with you on taking the time to find yourself after losing someone. I got divorced about 8years ago. My negative experience had pushed me towards avoiding all contact with the opposite gender. After several years of avoiding men altogether, I had to do some souls searching.
    Lessons learned for me are: all men are not Equal, give marriage a second chance, and love yourself first before you try to love anyone else.

    • muslimnlove says:

      I think you bring up an excellent point, all men are not created equal. We tend to put them in one cohort when we encounter bad experiences. Soul searching is so important when we lose a little bit of ourselves in certain situations. Regain a sense of yourself and I am sure you will be ready to embark on your love journey again. I look forward to sharing more of my experiences and learning from others. Thanks for reading! ❤

  2. Abdul says:

    Assalaam aleika Sis. Truly soulful words. I came across you’re blog-from another blog-from a facebook post and ended up reading your entire blog!! Hehe

    You’re first blog post got me thinking though (after reading through all the posts + comments)…..why I’m I here? Ha!

    I guess you write good stories, in a good way. I’ve never quite understood “the concept” of an African-American Muslimah. As an African, my understanding of Black Islam is limited to Malcom X, Nation of Islam et al but I digress.

    Keep writing Muslim Sister; your good stories in your way

    Fi amaan illah

    • muslimnlove says:

      Salam Abdul, thanks for stopping by and taking the time to read my blog. My father side of the family is African so I get the best of both worlds. 😉 I hope I give you insight as to how the Black Muslim woman perceives marriage and relationships. I always appreciate feedback from the brothas to keep me balanced in my thought and approach. Hope you come back inshAllah!

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