As y’all know I am all for women being independent and free thinkers.
There are certain things that you just DON’T say to your man.
You can still be a sistaqueen and reign that throne but a smart woman knows how to treat her man right.
Likewise a smart man knows how to treat his woman right.
Recently, I witnessed a woman talking to her man in the most disrespectful manner. I cringed as I heard her put him down. I knew she would regret it later and more importantly I knew he would not bring the topic up later.
His bruised ego would surface in other ways.
Most men will not admit when you have hurt their feelings. It’s seen as being “unmanly” or weak.
They are men and they have something called pride. At times, some have more than others.
Now this should never happen but my first thought was if she’s talking to him like this in public then how are they talking behind closed doors? When you show respect for your partner you are in turn showing respect for yourself. After all, this is a relationship that requires the involvement of two equally dedicated individuals. Treat it like that.
Shaunti Feldman, author of The Male Factor broke it down like this:
I love getting relationship advice from the OG’s (aka aunties who have been married 20+ years) and one lady told me that for a relationship to be successful women need to feel loved and men need to feel respected.
This woman was the truth! I’ve often thought about this crucial piece of advice she gave me and she was right.
One thing I see over and over again is women throwing up the fact that they make more money than their husbands.
Now if a brotha is holding it down…
Paying the bills and doing what he needs in order to take care of you then why are you throwing it in his face?
That is one of the most emasculating things you can do to a man and a smart woman will not degrade her partner in this manner.
Sure, when you are in the heat of the moment your judgement fails quite quickly but you have to remember words can create deep wounds that can take time heal.
Lastly, I can’t finish this post without paying homage to the sistaqueen who made respect soulful and cool.