He told me he believed in soul mates.
I looked at him over my glasses with skepticism.
“Soul mates…” I whispered to myself inquisitively.
This is something that I have thought of over and over again. It’s a frequent topic among my SistaQueens. The idea that you are made for someone and someone is made specifically for you. Some people are on a search their entire lives for this.
I like to consider myself a romantic. To be more specific I exude romanticism with a sprinkle of realism.
I firmly think there are many people out there you can be compatible with. Compatibility and “soul touching” are two different things. Sooo, what is “soul touching”? This is a term I use when you meet someone and you have an automatic connection. This does not only apply to romantic relationships but friendships as well. I can count on one hand the people I have met who fall into this category. The number of brothas would probably make up two fingers.
Once I met a brotha and he said he didn’t get the “feeling” when we would talk. I inquired and asked him what feeling he was referring to. He said “You know the feeling when you meet the one…” I was stifled and quiet for a couple minutes. “Do you expect fireworks to go off?” I asked. He looked at me and said nothing. Overall, it sounded like he watched too many Hollywood movies and his expectations of love were unrealistic. Of course there are some people you are not going to be drawn to and there are some you just aren’t connected with. When you are searching you must KOM (Keep an Open Mind) and be open to potentials. Love can come through many different avenues. Be open and receiving. Do not block.
Soul what that you don’t get whatever feeling you’re supposed to feel. If you’ve never felt it how do you know what it even is?
Sometimes I think people confuse lust with this type of love. Physiologically, your body goes haywire when this happens. There have been CT scans that show the stark differences between a person’s brain when they are in love as compared to when they aren’t. Your body releases “feel good” hormones called endorphins. If you are interested read this. It’s reasonable to see how most people would confuse the two. In my experiences men fall victim to this more than the ladies.
Of course I have met brothas who look good.
These physical indicators never faze me for the most part. Now don’t get me wrong a Sista still daydreams from time to time! I am human.
Difference is I think long-term when I meet someone. All this other junk is temporary to me. I want to really get down to the bottom of things.
One of my constant prayers is that God gives me an open mind and a receiving heart while I am on this search.
Refrain from allowing societal expectations of love to dilute the reality of relationships.